Prompt – Describe a time when you were heartbroken. What happened? What did you do to get out of it?
Back in September of 2015, I and my partner of 2.5 years broke up through a very complicated serious of events. We thought we were going to be together forever and it came as a shock to both our families that it was ending the way it did.
It started off as me wondering what was causing them to act differently than usual and they only told me that they weren’t feeling well. Little did I know at the time, but really they were struggling to see if I would change what I was doing wrong on my own without telling me anything. Later I would find out that they were telling other people all of our problems.
After many conversations leading nowhere due to my inability to give them space and their inability to tell me what was going on and if we were done, it wound up ending pretty ugly. There was no cheating, but there was a lot of pain on both ends, but I never could see any emotions from their side about the relationship ending.
I’m not proud of my reaction to the relationship ending and I refuse to talk about it now, but I resorted to an old coping mechanism that is very unhealthy for a short period of time.
What I got out of the relationship ending was that I need to pay more attention to the other person in the relationship instead of just my side of things. That was my biggest takeaway.
Also, never be afraid to ask for help. One of the things that helped me through it the most was that I was seeing a counselor at the time anyways and that allowed me to have a place to vent while I struggled through the breakup.
- When were you last heartbroken and what occurred?
- How did you get through your last breakup with somebody that you were with for a long time?
- Have you ever seen a counselor, if so, what for?