Prompt – What’s the most common excuse you make? What do you think would happen if you avoided saying it altogether?
My biggest thing that I give excuses about is the fact that I’m overly attached to people that I enjoy being around. In my case, this was my father when I was younger and now is my partner. This seems to have been caused by the fact that when I was younger my parents got divorced and my dad had to move 3 hours away to find a new job, my mother wasn’t around much for 7 years of my younger childhood, and I stayed with my grandparents during this time.
Nowadays, I make this excuse to my partner whenever I get upset at the thought of spending more than 2-3 days away from them. It is really hard for me to spend that time apart from my partner when I go on vacation or anything away.
If I stopped making excuses about it because I feel bad for being clingy, the hope would be that I could get through the issue with help from a counselor at some point. That is one of my goals, especially once I’m in a position to see a counselor more frequently than while I’m in school.
Also, I need to work towards being more independent because if I get into vet school then I will require more time alone in order to study enough to get through. Another problem is that the person I am with at that point, hopefully, my current partner, will likely not be able to follow me there.