Everyone has that feeling during their lives that they have made some sort of mistake. It can be a situation between a best friend or that family relationship you wish you fixed when you were younger. It can be the fight between parents you wish you could stop or the partner you wish you had handled an argument with better.
For me, there are a couple things in this year that I wish I could’ve handled better. One of them was very recently and makes me wonder about coincidences between it’s timing and this prompt..
Sister vs Mother
A few weeks back, my mother had became fed up with my older sister.
Before I go any further, I want to preface this story by telling you of the situation. My sister is 24 years old right now and living at home while doing college online and working. She has a boyfriend that is a few years, at least, older than she is and spends time with him more than us and we find that normal.
My mother had been asking my sister for the money she owed us. There had been an agreement of a certain payment she would be giving every pay in order to pay for expenses and that was reasonable. For the longest time, this happened without any issues and, although, occasionally late it was understood what was expected.
Then, my sister started spending all her time with this man. She started paying us more infrequently until she stopped altogether and was making my mother seem like the bad person. It made all of us angry and upset because we were relying on money that was never going to come, but we didn’t know that at the time.
One night, my mother was sick of this. She had gotten a text from my sister saying false things about not being able to be kicked out due to what her license said. That isn’t a fact. I sat in a room almost right nextdoor to my sister’s room when this occured. She ran into my sister’s room, irritated and upset, and told her how upset she was. She made it clear that she was unhappy and it caused my sister to shut down on her.
That night, she wasn’t allowed in the house unless she started to contribute again. She’s back now, but still not paying her full way the way she agreed to in the beginning. This is a fact, but we hope to get her back.
To this day, I wish I would’ve walked in and stopped the yelling. All it did was cause my mother pain that she didn’t deserve and cause my sister to distance herself from everyone in this house.
My sister was someone I looked up to when I was younger. We were best friends at a time when I was truly shy about everything that was around. I miss that relationship, but if she can’t control her own situation then I can’t trust her with anything ever.
This post is in response to Hindsight is 20-20.